Lessons of 28 and Thank You!

Hey everyone! Let me start off by saying I am so sorry that there has not been any recent blog post in over a month. Right during the week of Thanksgiving, I caught Covid and had to rest for quite awhile. After I was done with quarantine, I was overly exhausted for another couple of weeks. Then I received a job opportunity that I couldn't refuse. So, everything has been chaotic within the last few weeks but overall, I'm okay.

Happy New Year....well not quite yet LOL! This last year we have seen a maximum amount of change within ourselves and in others. As I wrote about this journey in my 20s, I shared with you some lessons that cause me to adjust to things but also look at other things differently. Your 20s and sometimes your 30s are you being aware of yourself and the areas that you can grow in. It's important that we do that for ourselves and the ones around us. Why? Nothing is worse than passing on generational curses and bad behavior to the children that we bring into the world causing more pain on others and ourselves. So, there's always a need for a change and to heal. In 2021, I needed that!

Recognizing my needs, I made healing to be at the top of my list along with learning many things about myself. At the beginning of the year, I decided to share my journey with you all. I began the year with a new therapist... one that would fit my needs. From there I had to go on a fast during Easter because I was aware of some things that were in my heart that was coming out in my actions. From there, I had to understand that it was important to pace myself and not feel like I had to have everything together just because I was 28. Often times, I felt like I was behind my peers because I was not working at an entry level position like they were. I had to work through the thought process of comparison and realizing that it does steal my joy.

I also learned about grief. I learned that grief comes in many different forms and there are so many ways to handle it before you allow it take over you. I had a chance to open my heart to love and truly date as an adult. Not only was it interesting and entertaining, but I was able to understand when people truly show their red flags upfront and to stop giving excuses where they don't need to be. I fell in love and then was hurt. That pain pushed me to purposely find motivation and value within myself. I then started applying for jobs in my career field. I have now landed something that will forever change my life. And this all started with one step of a change in the beginning of the year.

All these lessons learned in just one year! My 28th year was my most blessed and most fun year during a pandemic. Just imagine, God granted all of that for me to experience. Because of Him, I am forever grateful. And since I have experienced all of this, my value to myself has changed tremendously. I can only imagine where I would be if certain events did not take place in my life. In hindsight, when tragedies and failures happen at the moment, we tend to think it is the end or that we can never make it through. The crazy thing is, it is the total opposite. It is the start of something brand new. That is why it is important to learn to " move forward" instead of "move on." That can apply to anything in life. And as I move forward, I am more aware than ever of the things I need to work on. For me, in 2022 I need to: set strict but loving boundaries, stop procrastinating, be in the moment, learn to process, and smile more. The last one is apart of a homework assignment from my therapist LOL. I feel that I am able to know what to work on for the future because some of my old flaws have been addressed and I know how to recognize it when it comes up. 28 was amazing and all about me as you all were able to read and see.

I have to also say, I am happy to share my journey/experiences with you. I hope some of experiences have helped you along the way for where you are in your life right now. I believe that testimonies help give encouragement to others to keep pushing to move forward when they are in the midst of their storms. Sometimes we can't always seem to find a way out or think that no one understands. Trust me, people do understand, even if they have not been through the exact same thing. Why do folks understand? Because the burden of the pain feels the same. Pain does not discriminate. Disappointment does not discriminate. Failure does not discriminate..... we have all felt these burdens, and so that's when you should understand that compassion and understanding should not discriminate either. Being vulnerable with people on this blog was hard but it was a choice that I made to help people who felt that they had no help or guidance. And when it's all said and done, I can look back over my life and own all the decisions I made, good and bad, but also be proud of myself that I: forgave, let go, and decided to change my own ways for the betterment of myself and for society. Nothing is worst then unchanged behavior with an apology attached to it. So, I want to say thank you, enjoy your life, enjoy this day, be safe and I will see you in the NEW YEAR...2022!

p.s. Your girl's birthday is January 4th....last year of my 20s <3