Lessons from King Saul & David (Part 2- A Man of Character Development to Date)
- chevonneabrams
- Sep 16, 2024
- 3 min read
Society's suggestions on dating has changed over the past few years. Per usual, depending on who you are, your expectations and standards may be higher or lower than the next person. In church culture, the expectation has always been to wait on your Boaz. Though Boaz did a miraculous thing in the Bible, to save and redeem Ruth, I later realized that Boaz was not the man that I desired to date and/or marry. I admired David and seeing his development through his challenges with King Saul, and that let me know how great of a man he truly became and a wonderful husband he was.
In order to simply explain my reasoning, I must list off a few items that show why David's characteristics are the ideal thing to look out for in a partner:
David knew how to serve others. Men who serve others have a selfless heart and walk with the spirit of humility and confidence. David served and protected the sheep he was over and King Saul when playing the musical instrument when the king was stressed. He then asked to fight in the war against the Philistines to help win the battle. David enjoyed serving others.
David was obedient to God while King Saul failed because he wanted to please men. David wanted to please God. When it comes to God giving instructions to an assignment that was given to you, it is important that you follow it, no matter if you are worried about how you may look to others. Obedience matters. King Saul failed at this task because he rather please the people who served him than be obedient to God. Remember every choice has a cost to it.
(King)David had a just/fair heart. No matter what the situation was, David was quick to correct people in Israel and judge fairly on cases.
(King) David acknowledged/confessed his sin when confronted by a friend. When Nathan confronted King David on killing Uriah, David confessed his sin unto God. He wasn't too prideful for correction. It's important to see this within a man's heart and actions. You can also tell the type of man he is based upon his friend group.
David's heart was after God's heart. A man lives a life that is pleasing to God and pursues His kingdom. This man does not have to be perfect, but trying.
King Saul was in a king's position while David was being molded to become king. When God molds you, you are more appreciative of the position that you are in and more willing to go to The Father for any and everything. You are better suited to handle the position through God's way.
David sought The Lord and knew how to fight in war. King David was a man of war. He knew when to fight and how to fight. He sought God for every battle. This is essential in every man.
This last point I am going to add in because I believe the Holy Spirit is telling me to add it in the blog. David cared about his wives. King Saul's daughter loved David and helped him escape her father's plan to kill him. He later came back for her. When King David met Abigail, she was married to a mean man who would not feed David's army but Abigail ended up making food for them. Abigail's husband passed away and David married her to make sure she was protected and provided for. And though he got with Bathsheba in a bad way, David comforted her after their first child died after birth. David cared about the women he was covering and leading in marriage. This is very similar to how Christ loves the church.
Even though the church continues to push women to wait on their Boaz, I realize how ideal David is. Though in the beginning David does not seem ideal, he is the type of man that God molds to be a great man of God and uses to fulfill His will. This man will oftentimes be overlooked because everyone wants a King Saul, one who is already right fully in his place. See when God molds a man, his heart is often rooted in Christ. It doesn't mean he won't make mistakes. But it does mean he has had enough time to know his Savior, grow in his pruning season, heart and mindset is of servitude, and ready for war to protect his household. He also knows who to seek at all times, the One who made and molded him.
This character development takes time and isolation with God. But I believe and pray that these characteristics will show up in these men so they can represent Christ and lead others , in the right way.
With that being said, I hope you enjoyed this part 2 of the Lessons Learned from King Saul & David!
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